Girly Thoughts


“Girly thoughts” is supposed to make you rethink what it means for something to be “girly” and why the word has the connotations that it does. I am a girl (a woman, actually, but most people still call me a girl), and these are my thoughts. They are therefore girly thoughts. If they don’t fit your definition of girly, I suggest you change it (Occam’s razor and all – a definition is easier to change than my whole personality). What I’m not trying to say is that feminism is just for girls. I’m all about men getting in on feminism. I’m also all about intersectionality, and I’ll try to write about all different kinds of oppression, but since these are mostly my opinions, there will be more of what I know better.

My username reflects how I came to feminism as I left Christianity. Find Judges 19 in the Bible and see how much happy lovey-ness you find. I never, in 20 years of being Christian, heard her mentioned in church or any other Christian gathering. I refuse to ignore her. But since she’s nameless, I just take the name of the place where you can find her. You can call me J19 for short.

I am a college student, so I figured that meant I should start a blog about saving the world. It’s a graduation requirement, right? It works out, anyway, because I’m one of those people who likes to think about things more than other people do, so writing it online and leaving it for whoever’s interested works better than boring my friends to death. I’ve tried to write a blogs a few other times in ways that would actually add something to the blogosphere, but it turns out I’m a crappy journalist and I’m only motivated enough to write regularly during school if what I’m writing is my own amateur opinion.

Comments from everyone are welcome. Disagree with me, ask me questions, teach me something new, but if you say any sexist or otherwise assholey things, just know that I’ll be using your comments to prove my points to other people. : ) Oh, and since I’m a crappy journalist, this will be my thoughts as they come to me, not the news as it comes out. So feel free to dig up old posts and comment, once I have old posts to dig up. I might look back and say “what was I thinking back then?” but odds are the issue I was writing about will not have gone out of style.


  1. That’s why I started a blog as well! I thought it was a graduation requirement! =)

    I am very interested in reading your blog and thought I’d start here.

    Comment by Amelia — March 29, 2008 @ 6:41 pm | Reply

  2. Hi,I came here from your human rights blog.

    Thanks for highlighting the plight of the unnamed woman in Judges 19.I was not aware of that as I don’t believe in any religion.I think all organised religions are the same when it comes to oppression of different kinds.I would never want to go anywhere near any organised religion.

    You are doing a great job by standing up for the rights of the oppressed !

    I want to read more from you,on both your blogs.Keep writing,girl !

    Comment by Raj — April 1, 2008 @ 10:57 am | Reply

  3. Thanks! And I understand your concerns regarding organized religion. If I ever feel a need for spirituality in my life again, I’m pretty sure I’ll be doing it solo.

    Comment by judgesnineteen — April 1, 2008 @ 11:42 am | Reply

  4. Hey J19-
    I wanted to say thanks for adding my blog Female and Breathing to your blog roll. As a feminist and a Christian, it meant alot to me that a woman like you respected and vibed with the things I was saying.

    It’s an honor to be in your company,

    Comment by Lindsay — April 9, 2008 @ 5:13 am | Reply

  5. Dear judgesnineteen,

    I came upon your page when looking for other organizations that might share
    our mission. Students Active for Ending Rape (SAFER)
    is a nonprofit that provides college students with the resources and support to change their schools’ policies, programs, and practices around sexual assault. Our blog, Change Happens, monitors current events related to sexual violence, foregrounds quality media, especially by students, about sexual assault, provides resources for students looking for information about how to combat sexual violence on their campuses, and keeps readers updated on SAFER’s current projects. It is updated daily (sometimes several times a day).

    We would love to exchange blogroll links with you. Please feel free to contact me if you have questions or would like more information about us.


    Comment by Lizzie — May 23, 2008 @ 4:47 am | Reply

  6. That sounds great! I actually feel stupid that I didn’t already have SAFER linked to here.

    Comment by judgesnineteen — May 23, 2008 @ 7:26 pm | Reply

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